The topic up for discussion this week by the Demystifying Divas and the Mens Club is a chance to ask about what’s actually going on behind those baby blues: Three things we would really like to know about what men and women think.

It’s an interesting question as the female mind is a beautiful and mysterious thing, and there are few guys who will ever completely understand its inner workings. But this mystery is exactly what makes the female psyche so intriguing and attractive to me, some more so than others.

Yet for all the wonders it holds and questions it raises, finding three things has actually been quite difficult, so I owe thanks to Chrissy for giving me a little kickstart.

Why do you insist on going to the toilets in pairs?

This is a question that’s perplexed males, and some females, across the world ever since the toilet was invented.

Why do you feel the need to grab your best friend and drag her into the rest room? You even ask if she wants to go, worded in such a way that she can’t say no. What do you have to talk about that can only be discussed in the very public confines of the ladies room? Is there something hiding behind those doors that we guys don’t know about?

But what I really want to know is this: why can’t you talk about it in front of me? What’s so secret and urgent that you need to escape with someone else? I like my relationships to be built on trust and honesty, so running off to the bathroom every 30 minutes isn’t something that inspires either in me.

Incidentally, there’s a bar in Glasgow that’s introduced special double cubicles for exactly this reason, a concept that I find wrong on so many levels.

When we make love, what do you really think?

This isn’t the stereotypical ‘was it as good for you as it was for me’ question, rather, this is me wondering if there’s something I could do better.

There’s a strong chance that she’ll be discussing the in’s and out’s of our sex life with her friends, debating what I do right and wrong, but that doesn’t bother me. However, I’m not a mind reader and this is the kind of discussion that I want to have with lovers. Need to have.

I want to know if there’s room for improvement, although I’m not looking for a detailed breakdown or statistical analysis within ten post-coital minutes, just some open and honest advice to help me become a better lover for you.

If it’s good then tell me, because a little confidence booster is always appreciated and it’ll let me know what’s making you happy. If it’s bad then tell me, because otherwise I’m going to spend my days arrogantly believing that I’m a great lover when all I’m doing is giving you something to moan about (but not when it matters..). It’s about communicating over the things that really matter, the things that can make or break a relationship.

What are the things about me that you find so irresistable, sexy, adorable and cute?

Because for all my words and deeds, my implied confidence and self belief, my soft spot covers a fragile ego that sometimes needs a little massaging. Preferably with lavendar oil..

I’m not after constant praise, just the occassional reminder of the reasons why you love me, in the same way that I hope I’m telling you why I find you so adorable and perfect. I might make light of it, but I do like to hear that you find me cute when I blush, or that you like the way I say your name. It’s the little things like that which can make a difference, or they do to me..

Anyways, I’m afraid a broken power pack and low battery will need to curtail this post for the moment.

For something more insightful, pay a visit to the rest of the Mens Club: Phin, Stigmata, Jamesyboy and the Maximum Leader..

And don’t forget the Demystifying Divas who raise some interesting questions, answers to which may follow after the weekend: Silk, Kathy and Phoenix.